Looking at Others and Ourselves the WRONG Way

Looking at Others

How often have we look scrutinize and judge others at the faults they have done or mistakes that they make?

And how often do we do that to ourselves? Nada. Almost never.

I never did. Until recently...

I have come to realize that we have been doing these scrutinizing and judgment thing the wrong way.

Instead of zooming into other people's fault and mistakes, we should actually zooming out and look at them from a more holistic point of view. Once we are able to achieve that, our initial judgement of other may differ entirely.

Just how many times have we change of point of view of a person after we 'see' them from a different perspective?

Are you always mad with your boss because he has been pushing most of his work over to you? Have you been complaining that he should also bank-transfer half his salary over to you too?

Would you look at him or her the same way again after you realize that he/she has been grooming you to take over his role after he retires or resign?

Looking at Ourselves

It's funny that we are 'almost' always able to forgive ourselves for the mistakes we made but we are not so forgiving when others make the same mistake...

Why?

I believe it boils down to having different perspective of how we look at others and ourselves...

All Most successful people and friends that I know do it the right way. They are harsh with themselves but they are ever so forgiving with others.

These people look at themselves with a magnifying glass and zoom into all their shortcomings and make improvements from there. And they zoom out on people to see the 'better' side of those who make mistakes.

These people have more friends, they are more successful than most people.

Just because they look themselves and Others the RIGHT way.

Let's start looking the right way starting today, shall we? :)